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Club Rules


Pleasure4theMoments Events has a Dress Code and will be STRICTLY enforced.

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Single Male Policy

Any single male, husband or boyfriend who violates these guidelines, particularly making any UNINVITED sexual advances, (ex., touching, caressing, kissing, exposing yourself, etc.) to any woman at Pleasure4theMoment events will be asked to leave the event immediately and membership may be revoked.

Don’t ignore the husband, no matter how much his wife or girlfriend likes you, because if the husband doesn’t like you, you’re not getting anywhere with her. This doesn’t mean you need to spend all night talking with him, but introduce yourself, be cordial and play it by ear.

If someone tells you “NO”, that’s all there is to it. It’s not open for discussion! Don’t ask them, “why not?’, or “are you sure, I’m the greatest lover in the world?” They are not interested in you joining them no matter what your line is.

All in all, it’s real simple; be a gentleman, be friendly, and treat people well. Everyone will have a much better evening if the ladies have a good time, and if they do then you have a chance of being included in the fun with them.

Appropriate Behavior for joining a Couple

A true gentleman and a classy guy in the swinging lifestyle is non-threatening to the male spouse’s virility. He’s happy to be sharing in the encounter and doesn’t try to monopolize it. He knows his place in and out of the bedroom. He is also a friend to both spouses. Should be slightly closer to the male, don’t want to be perceived as cutting into his role.

  • Always be polite

  • Never assume

  • Ask permission before touching

  • “NO means NO!” Accept it gracefully. No is accepted by either her or her husband. No one pleases everybody. Never think you know more about what she wants then she does. Remember No is not open for negotiation … if you are told more the twice from the same couple you will be asked to leave.

  • If you’re unsure about proper procedures or what’s allowed, find someone in P4M and ask for some direction.

  • Most people in the lifestyle  have a partner; include them in your conversation when appropriate.

  • Mind your manners. Be on your very best behavior.

  • Pay attention to nonverbal signals, both positive and negative. Body Language speaks much louder than words. Act accordingly!

  • When talking to others at an Event that you are interested in, make sure you understand their personal rules and boundaries. Everyone is different.

  • There is no guarantee that you will meet someone, but only that you will be admitted to the social space. No one owes you anything and you shouldn’t expect anything from anyone.

  • If you have a problem with someone …Please tell security/management, if you don’t see them go to the bar and let the bartenders know, they will get someone asap and we will handle all problems, not you. Never create or contribute to a ‘scene’!

  • If you're NEW and have additional questions about the lifestyle, ask to speak to a regular member couple. They will be happy to answer any questions you might have.


How can single men help themselves out? You can follow a few steps:


  • Have common sense

  • Behave, follow the rules

  • Talk to male half of couple first

  • Never be pushy

  • Never ask the female half to meet you alone

  • Do not lurk around the corners

  • Be friendly not creepy

  • Be honest (no fish stories here) meaning do not make claims you can’t back up

  • Never assume anything

Single Male Policy

Pleasure4theMoment's Rules:

NO MEANS NO:  Secret Diversion is Membership Only, socially safe environment for all ethnicities, genders, and sexuality. Entertaining people who are interested in QUALITY, not QUANITY. Mature, like-minded people in the Lifestyle are encourage to join P4M. NO MEANS NO

NO PROSTITUTION: Prostitution is the giving or the receiving of the body for sexual activities for hire. Sexual activity involves the anus, oral, the vaginal area and the penis/genitals. Therefore no one is permitted to ask, solicit, or partake in the touching or any other type of contact with another person's penis/genitals, anus or vaginal area for compensation. Compensation does not require money to be exchanged but rather involves anything of value regardless of how trivial that value may be. Anyone who solicits prostitution engages in prostitution or appears to be involved in prostitution will be removed from the premises immediately and their membership revoked, NO REFUNDS.

NO JOKING ABOUT PROSTITUTION: Since solicitation of prostitution is simply a verbal act of one person communicating to another that they wish sexual activity to occur for hire, even joking about sexual activity for hire can be misconstrued to be soliciting prostitution. Therefore, any joking or fooling around about prostitution or acts that may constitute prostitution will result in your immediate removal and your membership revoked, NO REFUNDS.

NO DRUGS: No illegal drugs will be permitted on premises. Illegal drugs are drugs that you are not permitted to have by law. Should you require at any time to take any drug while on the premises, it must be taken from a prescription bottle in the name of the person taking the drug. There is NO SMOKING inside any of the facilities.

NO GUNS OR WEAPONS OF ANY KIND: Shall be permitted on the premises, EVER

NO CAMERAS, VIDEO OR AUDIO RECORDING EQUIPMENT: Shall be permitted to be used inside the premises. Members of the press please refer to the P4M Membership Contract. There may be an event specifically for "Photo Shoot" only those designated as a photographer can take photos and/or videos.

We do sometimes have our photographers on premise for special events, photo's will be transferred to you 3-5 business days after the event. However a consent form will be given to you with the necessary consent and information.  

NO INAPPROPRIATE CONDUCT: As with "no means no" as a member of Pleasure4theMoment you agree to respect other member's wishes for privacy and enjoyment. 

Therefore, you shall not engage in any inappropriate touching or non-consensual touching, nor will you behave in a manner that is disruptive to other's enjoyment. Loud, obnoxious, and inconsiderate behavior shall not be tolerated. Should you act in an inappropriate manner as determined by management, which management deems to be inappropriate, then you will be asked to leave immediately. Should this occur more than once, your membership will be revoked.

YOU MUST BE 21 YEARS OF AGE OR OVER: To become a member of Pleasure4theMoment.

YOUR MEMBERSHIP IS SOLELY FOR YOURSELFAnyone allowing another person to use his or her membership card or to pose as him or her for the sake of entry will have his or her membership revoked. Your ID will be asked for at every Event.

ORIENTATIONShould you have any concerns as to what might take place, or what might be viewed in the private areas inside, then before becoming a member you should ask management any questions you might have or discuss your concerns.  If you choose to attend an event without some form of introduction by Pleasure4theMoment, there is risk on your part of being exposed to activities in a consensual adult lifestyle. We of course continue to offer information to help you understand your place in a complex way of lifestyle expression.

LIMITED SPACE: Pleasure4theMoment always fills to capacity, we would like you to have every opportunity as members and non-members to attend the event of your choice.  Events are posted and socialized for 3-4 weeks prior to the event date, so please make sure you are on our mailing list.  Sign-up early to get your confirmation online,  you will be turned down at the door if you just show up without your confirmation and valid ID.

ALCOHOLPleasure4theMoment is BYOB and alcohol will not be sold on-premises. Should you desire to drink alcohol (beer, liquor, or wine); you must Bring Your Own Booze (BYOB) with you to the premises, and place in the Bar area. Any alcohol left behind after an Event, will be disposed of at closing time No exceptions. We provide all of the regular mixers and set-ups completely FREE of charge. 

GOOD PRACTICE: Please be advised that management strongly suggests that all persons practice safe sex. Please be aware that all activities are at your own risk. Pleasure4theMoment suggest (Bring Your Own Condoms) BYOC and expect you to provide and use your condoms. 


Pleasure4theMoment Dress Code

Dress to Impress!



Dress to impress…Because isn’t that what you do on a date…. Well then you are on a Date here as well! You are looking to be intimate, so take the extra time and care in your daily hygiene routine this means.

  • Dental Hygiene

  • Shaving and/or grooming, above as well as below

  • Brush or comb your hair

  • Put on cologne and use deodorant; but don’t bathe in it

  • Taking extra care in picking out the right things to wear (you’re not in high school, at the gym or working in the yard). So dress up, people will notice. You only get one chance to make a first impression SO JUST DO IT

We try to create a social experience atmosphere for each Event and require that you dress accordingly.

Men should wear a nice shirt (preferably with a collar) and dress pants or clean fashionable jeans. Dress/Khaki shorts are acceptable in the warmer months. For all you Sneaker Heads, yes you can wear your Kicks, they cannot look as though you mowed the yard in them!

Absolutely NO:


Hats or Do Rags


Tank tops or muscle shirts

Sports Jerseys

Workout clothes or sweat/jogging suits


Sneakers or work boots

Spikes or spurs

Cut-offs or gym shorts


The only exception to the dress code above is during appropriate theme nights.  You ARE required to abide by the dress code.

You only get one chance to make a FIRST impression! If you are asked to change, and cannot NO REFUNDS

Dues & Donations

Pleasure4theMoment is the group, Secret Diversion home of the Red Door Lounge is an on-premises lifestyle friendly social club and venue for rental.  Because we are on-premises this is private Membership groupsocially safe environment for all ethnicity, race, genders, and sexual orientation. We entertain people who are interested in QUALITY not QUANTITY. Mature, likeminded people in the Lifestyle are encouraged to join P4M. 

SECRET DIVERSION is P4M's new on-site Lifestyle social space and venue for rental.  To provide our members with a safe, non-judgmental environment, we are instilling a Private Membership group to help us personally to review members for Secret Diversion. Becoming a Membership group allows us to approve our services to our guests and manage the numbers to stay compliant for quality events.

For the time being, we strongly encourage you receive the Covid-19 vaccination before you attend an Event.  

How to become a VIP Member

  1. Log In and fill out a Membership Form

  2. Membership Form is reviewed by a P4M Member

    • Your profile is Marked Pending

  3. Once approved, you will receive a VIP Card.

  4. You are now officially a Member of P4M.

  5. VIP Members will receive discounted P4M or P4M affiliated event.  This will be revoked if shared with non-members.

  6. ***Daily Memberships are marked Pending until Membership Dues are paid

    • Membership Benefits do not apply.


Annual Membership Benefits:

  • VIP Card & Code for Entry 

  • Discounts off of P4M or P4M affiliated event

  • Discount off Secret Diversion/Red Door Lounge Rental

  • Secret Diversion merchandise

  • Discount on Overnight stay (After Party) as Avail

  • Up to 3 Single Females Free

  • First Access to new Amenities

  • Attend 1 FREE Pleasure4theMoment event your BDAY month.

P4M VIP Membership Fees

  • Poly Family (up to 5 people)     2024 Pricing Coming Soon

  • Couple (Male/Female)               2024 Pricing Coming Soon

  • Single Male                                 2024 Pricing Coming Soon

  • Single Female                             2024 Pricing Coming Soon

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