Club Rules


Starting 2021 the Dress Code will be STRICTLY enforced.

Live it! - Learn it! - Love it!


Single Male Policy

Any single male, husband or boyfriend who violates these guidelines, particularly making any UNINVITED sexual advances, (ex., touching, caressing, kissing, exposing yourself, etc.) to any woman at Pleasure4theMoment events will be asked to leave the event immediately and membership may be revoked.

Don’t ignore the husband, no matter how much his wife or girlfriend likes you, because if the husband doesn’t like you, you’re not getting anywhere with her. This doesn’t mean you need to spend all night talking with him, but introduce yourself, be cordial and play it by ear.

If someone tells you “NO”, that’s all there is to it. It’s not open for discussion! Don’t ask them, “why not?’, or “are you sure, I’m the greatest lover in the world?” They are not interested in you joining them no matter what your line is.

All in all, it’s real simple; be a gentleman, be friendly, and treat people well. Everyone will have a much better evening if the ladies have a good time, and if they do then you have a chance of being included in the fun with them.

Appropriate Behavior for joining a Couple

A true gentleman and a classy guy in the swinging lifestyle is non-threatening to the male spouse’s virility. He’s happy to be sharing in the encounter and doesn’t try to monopolize it. He knows his place in and out of the bedroom. He is also a friend to both spouses. Should be slightly closer to the male, don’t want to be perceived as cutting into his role.

  • Always be polite

  • Never assume

  • Ask permission before touching

  • “NO means NO!” Accept it gracefully. No is accepted by either her or her husband. No one pleases everybody. Never think you know more about what she wants then she does. Remember No is not open for negotiation … if you are told more the twice from the same couple you will be asked to leave.

  • If you’re unsure about proper procedures or what’s allowed, find someone in P4M and ask for some direction.

  • Most people in the lifestyle  have a partner; include them in your conversation when appropriate.

  • Mind your manners. Be on your very best behavior.

  • Pay attention to nonverbal signals, both positive and negative. Body Language speaks much louder than words. Act accordingly!

  • When talking to others at an Event that you are interested in, make sure you understand their personal rules and boundaries. Everyone is different.

  • There is no guarantee that you will meet someone, but only that you will be admitted to the social space. No one owes you anything and you shouldn’t expect anything from anyone.

  • If you have a problem with someone …Please tell security/management, if you don’t see them go to the bar and let the bartenders know, they will get someone asap and we will handle all problems, not you. Never create or contribute to a ‘scene’!

  • If you're NEW and have additional questions about the lifestyle, ask to speak to a regular member couple. They will be happy to answer any questions you might have.


How can single men help themselves out? You can follow a few steps:


  • Have common sense

  • Behave, follow the rules

  • Talk to male half of couple first

  • Never be pushy

  • Never ask the female half to meet you alone

  • Do not lurk around the corners

  • Be friendly not creepy

  • Be honest (no fish stories here) meaning do not make claims you can’t back up

  • Never assume anything


Pleasure4theMoment's Rules:

NO MEANS NO:  Pleasure4theMoment is a Private Membership Only, socially safe environment for all ethnicities, genders, and sexuality. Entertaining people who are interested in QUALITY, not QUANITY. Mature, like minded people in the Lifestyle are encourage to join P4M. NO MEANS NO

NO PROSTITUTION: Prostitution is the giving or the receiving of the body for sexual activities for hire. Sexual activity involves the anus, oral, the vaginal area and the penis/genitals. Therefore no one is permitted to ask, solicit, or partake in the touching or any other type of contact with another person's penis/genitals, anus or vaginal area for compensation. Compensation does not require money to be exchanged but rather involves anything of value regardless of how trivial that value may be. Anyone who solicits prostitution engages in prostitution or appears to be involved in prostitution will be removed from the premises immediately and their membership revoked, NO REFUNDS.

NO JOKING ABOUT PROSTITUTION: Since solicitation of prostitution is simply a verbal act of one person communicating to another that they wish sexual activity to occur for hire, even joking about sexual activity for hire can be misconstrued to be soliciting prostitution. Therefore, any joking or fooling around about prostitution or acts that may constitute prostitution will result in your immediate removal and your membership revoked, NO REFUNDS.

NO DRUGS: No illegal drugs will be permitted on premises. Illegal drugs are drugs that you are not permitted to have by law. Should you require at any time to take any drug while on the premises, it must be taken from a prescription bottle in the name of the person taking the drug. There is NO SMOKING inside any of the facilities.

NO GUNS OR WEAPONS OF ANY KIND: Shall be permitted on the premises.

NO CAMERAS, VIDEO OR AUDIO RECORDING EQUIPMENT: Shall be permitted to be used inside the premises. Members of the press please refer to the P4M Membership Contract. There may be an event specifically for "Photo Shoot" only those designated as a photographer can take photos and/or videos.

We do sometimes have our photographers on premise for special events, photo's will be transferred to you 3-5 business days after the event. However a consent form will be given to you with the necessary consent and information.  

NO INAPPROPRIATE CONDUCT: As with "no means no" as a member of Pleasure4theMoment you agree to respect other member's wishes for privacy and enjoyment. 

Therefore, you shall not engage in any inappropriate touching or non-consensual touching, nor will you behave in a manner that is disruptive to other's enjoyment. Loud, obnoxious, and inconsiderate behavior shall not be tolerated. Should you act in an inappropriate manner as determined by management, which management deems to be inappropriate, then you will be asked to leave immediately. Should this occur more than once, your membership will be revoked.

YOU MUST BE 21 YEARS OF AGE OR OVER: To become a member of Pleasure4theMoment.

YOUR MEMBERSHIP IS SOLELY FOR YOURSELFAnyone allowing another person to use his or her membership card or to pose as him or her for the sake of entry will have his or her membership revoked. Your ID will be asked for at every Event.

ORIENTATIONShould you have any concerns as to what might take place, or what might be viewed in the private areas inside, then before becoming a member you should ask management any questions you might have or discuss your concerns.  If you choose to attend an event without some form of introduction by Pleasure4theMoment, there is risk on your part of being exposed to activities in a consensual adult lifestyle. We of course continue to offer information to help you understand your place in a complex way of lifestyle expression.

LIMITED SPACE: Pleasure4theMoment always fills to capacity, we would like you to have every opportunity as members and non-members to attend the event of your choice.  Events are posted and socialized for 3-4 weeks prior to the event date, so please make sure you are on our mailing list.  Sign-up early to get your confirmation online,  you will be turned down at the door if you just show up without your confirmation and valid ID.

ALCOHOLPleasure4theMoment is BYOB and alcohol will not be sold on-premises. Should you desire to drink alcohol (beer, liquor, or wine); you must Bring Your Own Booze (BYOB) with you to the premises, and place in the Bar area. Any alcohol left behind after an Event, will be disposed of at closing time No exceptions. We provide all of the regular mixers. Diet Cola, Cola, Sprite, Ginger Ale, Tonic, OJ, Cranberry, Pineapple, and Grapefruit, completely FREE of charge. 

GOOD PRACTICE: Please be advised that management strongly suggests that all persons practice safe sex. Please be aware that all activities are at your own risk. Pleasure4theMoment suggest BYOC and expect you to provide and use your condoms. 


Pleasure4theMoment Dress Code

Dress to Impress!



Dress to impress…Because isn’t that what you do on a date…. Well then you are on a Date here as well! You are looking to be intimate, so take the extra time and care in your daily hygiene routine this means.

  • Dental Hygiene

  • Shaving and/or grooming, above as well as below

  • Brush or comb your hair

  • Put on cologne and use deodorant; but don’t bathe in it

  • Taking extra care in picking out the right things to wear (you’re not in high school, at the gym or working in the yard). So dress up, people will notice. You only get one chance to make a first impression SO JUST DO IT

We try to create a social experience atmosphere for each Event and require that you dress accordingly.

Men should wear a nice shirt (preferably with a collar) and dress pants or clean fashionable jeans. Dress/Khaki shorts are acceptable in the warmer months.

Absolutely NO:


Hats or Do Rags


Tank tops or muscle shirts

Sports Jerseys

Workout clothes or sweat/jogging suits


Sneakers or work boots

Spikes or spurs

Cut-offs or gym shorts


The only exception to the dress code above is during appropriate theme nights.  You ARE required to abide by the dress code.

You only get one chance to make a FIRST impression! If you are asked to change, and cannot NO REFUNDS

Dues & Donations

Pleasure4theMoment is a private Membership group, socially safe environment for all ethnicities, race, genders, and sexual orientation. We entertain people who are interested in QUALITY not QUANITY. Mature, like minded people in the Lifestyle are encouraged to join P4M. 

"2020-The Year of Reflection" has taught P4M that we need to know the people in our surroundings.  Being a Private Membership group will helps us personally to review members for quality events. Becoming a Membership group allows us to approve our services to our guests and manage the numbers to stay compliant with Covid-19 for quality events.

Membership will be included in your first donation to an Event.  You will be reviewed, then given a code to purchase your Membership/Event. 

For the time being, we strongly encourage a Covid-19 test before you attend an Event.  Anyone with a Covid-19 test within 3 days of an event, receives an additional 10% off donation for your next event and if you have the vaccine shot you receive 20% discount on donations. This is on top of your Membership 10% discount on donations.  Attending one of our exclusive road trips planned for 2021 will be for Members only.

How to become a Member

  1. Log In and fill out a Membership Form

  2. Membership Form is reviewed by a P4M Member

    • Your profile is Marked Pending

  3. Register for a Pleasure4theMoment Event with your Membership dues.

  4. You are now officially a Member of P4M.

  5. You are available to start receiving the below Member Benefits

  6. ***Daily Memberships are marked Pending until Membership Dues are paid

    • Membership Benefits do not apply


Annual Membership Benefits:

  • P4M Members receive first notification of all upcoming events

  • 10% discount at next event,  with a Covid-19 Negative test results within 3 days of Event

  • 20% discount at next event, with a vaccine proof

  • 10% discount on P4M Events for the year.

  • 10% Discount on Event Services

  • 10% Discount on Fetish Service

2021 Membership Dues 

  • Couple (Male/Female)      $50 for the year

  • Single Male                        $75 for the year

  • Single Female                    $10 for the year

If you are attending a Managed Event , you can utilize a Day Membership.  This is only good for the Event night.   

Guest Member Pass + suggested donation for the Event 

Guest Member passes are for one use only, which is the night of the Event. 

  • Couple (Male/Female)       $25 

  • Single Male                         $25 

  • Single Female                       $5